Social Distancing

By -


Mid March Sri Lanka entered into Social Distancing due to the outbreak of COVID 19. We were all forced to stay home, work from home and not step out from home. We were asked to maintain social distancing, social distancing is just a fancy word for self quarantine. This mean, no coffee shop visits with the person who you secretly love, no McDonalds to fix your mood, no classes on Sundays, no coming home late and no getting up early and going to work. We were living in a defined box even though most of us didn't realize it. Now the box is no more, and we all feel a bit lost.

This period of time made us realize a lot of things. Some of us learned how hard it is to live with your loved ones and some of us, like me, learned how much we love and missed spending time with our loved ones. Most of my married friends has problems living with their husbands or wives. Most of my unmarried friends felt trapped at home. My experience was a bit different. I started to learn, unlearn and relearn about my self, about what I love doing and what made me happy. The one thing I realized was that I hated my job, I hated what I have become, so I have decided at the age of 29 that, "I Will Re-Discover Myself".

Being a workaholic person, social distancing gave me an opportunity to let my guard down and relax. Stress from job was very much present but I was not scared of losing my job. You see, family, relationships and friends are like balls made of glass, if you drop them they will crack and its hard to repair nor replace, but your work life is like a rubber ball, it will always bounce back. This made me realize that most of us are doing things which we hate, what we have forgotten is that changing that situation is also in our hands. There are a lot of things to think about before changing your job or saying no in a relationship, but the sense of relief you get once you say NO is irreplaceable.

Just like me hating my job, a lot of people had problems living with their family. I have a question as to why this is happening, have we married the wrong person? have we outgrown who we use to be or are they not the same people we use to love? Since the start of COVID 19 and the shut down world wide, domestic violence has increased. In Sri Lanka domestic violence is present in a daily basis, its just people don't talk about it much, but they do talk about the domestic violence ratios due to COVID 19. This got me thinking, have to forgotten how to live one another?

As human beings I believe that we should make use of this time to learn more about ourselves as well as relearn about our family and loved ones. Family discussions at dinner tables can turn out to be heated arguments, but trust me, its worth it. No matter how much we hate our family and try to stay away from them, in the end they are the only people who will care for us . Some of us might think that we are born to the wrong family or that we are married to the wrong person, but all these people came into your life for a reason, for a purpose. We might as well learn to enjoy the ride we have with them and see where it takes us.

My advice to you is , make use of this period to do what you love,  read that book you always wanted to read, catch up on the sleep you had missed, do a bit of meditation and re-discover yourself, because who knows, we might not get another chance. Don't regret once a chance is gone.

#peacelovehappiness

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Finding Our Way Back

By -
Image
V ery often we feel that we are lost in life. We can not see a clear path ahead of us. We feel that we have lost our purpose and who we are. At times there is nothing to motivate us, nothing to keep us running. I am here to tell you that it is going to be ok. You are exactly where you should be in life. Who knows, maybe an amazing chapter is about to start. The only certainty about this world is the uncertainty of things. At this very time of my life, I am having a self-realization about how uncertain things are. Eventually, everything will change, your surroundings, the people you associate with. There is a chance that your whole belief system might change, you will start to look at things differently. It is nothing to fear, you just need to sit down, clear your mind and re-think. You might realize that the universe is trying to show you another path. Feeling lost will not harm you unless you do not understand what is going on with you. The most recent example about me which I can ta...
Read more

Meditation and What Comes After

By -
Image
My meditation journey started six years ago. Back then I meditated on and off without any guidance. Looking at some of the Meditation videos on YouTube, I would sit in one place, close my eyes, and try to focus on my breath. About two minutes into the meditation, the first thought pops up. It would be something related to work or home. Now they say in meditation when you get a thought to acknowledge it, leave it aside and again focus on your breath. Well this never happened those days. Most of us haven't developed our minds to be that calm. Leaving aside my focus on the breath, I would wander in my imagination. This is when Meditation becomes daydreaming.  Ten minutes out and I start to realize that I am daydreaming. I fix myself again and start focusing on my breath. Five minutes go by and I feel my head nodding backward. I have fallen asleep. This continues for months. At some point I gave up and stopped.  Years went by and 2020 came. I thought I'll start my meditation journ...
Read more

Work During Lockdown

By -
Image
I stepped out of home at 7.00 AM today, which is to go to work. I was driving and I looked around to see how people looked. Everybody was wearing face masks and some were even wearing gloves. Everybody looked very concerned and I believe that it's fair enough. Traffic was very low, I didn't even see one bus traveling in my rout. Things have changed a lot. People are being very careful.  My phone started ringing, and it was a member of my staff, he said: " Ma'am the train has already left". His train was at 7.39 AM and he was at the station on time but the train has left early. So it's one staff down. I think to myself, that's ok we can manage. Then five minutes later I get another call. It's another staff, this one traveling by bus. She says "Miss I have been waiting at the bus halt since 6.30 AM but no bus. Now I am a bit annoyed, they say we can bring 1/3 of the staff to work but there is no way for them to come to work. I think, it's ok I c...
Read more